Inspiration and Encouragement

What Is Your Unique Factor?

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For #FBF, originally posted October 6, 2011

What Is Your Unique Factor?

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When you think of the word unique, what comes to mind?

  • Different
  • Unusual
  • Weird
  • Uncommon
  • Only one of its kind

This list could go on and on. Are you aware of what sets you apart from everyone else who does what you do?

What do your clients, friends, or family say makes you stand out from the rest?

If you and I were selling a widget on opposite street corners and had been given the same sales training we would still sell the widget differently.


Because we both bring a unique factor to the product.

Your unique factor is….YOU!

One of my favorite quotes is “No one can beat you at being you.”

So why are so many people copy-cating the way someone speaks, writes, or does whatever it is that they do?

I’m perplexed at why we’re not okay with our unique factor.

Remember when being different was cool. But we still weren’t quite sure what it meant so we looked to others to show us the way.

In the 80’s it was banana clips, one lace glove thanks to Madonna, and mismatched earrings. And for Halloween you may have dressed up like Tina Turner with wild hair and a big sweatshirt dress. Oh how different we were!

Were you a fan of the Cosby Show? The sweaters, the “Gordon Gartrelle” shirt Denise made for Theo, the funky hairstyles were our guide to being different, unique.

The 90’s brought big hoop earrings with a key hanging from it thanks to Janet Jackson. Did you have a pair of parachute pants aka MC Hammer pants?

The guys wore high top fades. One guy in high school used to wear bowling shoes instead of the typical oxfords and I’m sure he was copying someone else. Salt ‘N’ Pepa had us wearing our hair asymmetrically, one side was long and the other short. It took forever for the short side to catch up when you got tired of the haircut. My poor cabbage patch doll also was a victim to this hairstyle. And I cannot forget the mile high stacked bangs. Either way, we all had our own “unique” style.

Welcome to the 21st Century! We’re all grown up and have replaced our favorite singers and TV show characters with our favorite peeps online. We’re copying how they talk, wear their hair, and how they write.

We’ve some how missed the fact that we’ve been uniquely and wonderfully made by God. Unique – different – only one – limited edition – none can match it, yet unfortunately we’re too afraid to be just that.

In school we were told how to write and in what voice to write. We were even told which pencil to use and how to shade in the circle just right so your answer would get counted on the test.

As much as we want to break free we struggle, afraid we’ll be judged or won’t get hired or selected. We want to be social on social media, yet aren’t sure if we should separate and hide our real friends from our online friends.

God forbid someone find out I enjoy loud music dancing and singing and that’s just at church.

If you knew I was a Jesus freak would you still love me? Would you still ask to work with me? Would you still like me, follow me, and retweet me?

Ever felt like you were behind and the more you try to catch up the farther behind you got. It’s because you’ve gotten out of your lane and are trying to run someone else’s race. Of course it doesn’t have to be that way when you’re being yourself in all it’s uniqueness. Including the tattoo you got sophomore year in college because your roommate and her friend were going to get one so you tagged along.

Too often I’m seeing carbon copies of things I’ve read or heard. It’s real easy to do with information being available so freely online.

My desire is for you to stand strong, stand up, and be the person you’ve been created to be. It’s tempting to follow the crowd and copy someone else and on the surface appears to be so much easier. In reality, it’s not. It’s hard waiting to see what the Joneses are going to do next so you’ll know your next move.

Get your voice, your style, and your own abilities. If I were to act like you and you were to act like me, the world would be a mess because we’d bump into each other. No one would ever start after the ‘mark, get set, GO!’ We’d all be stalling waiting to see what the first person was going to do so we’d know what to do.

It seems crazy to think that being ourselves could some how turn people away. And if it does, what? If someone doesn’t think you’re for them you shouldn’t change, instead seek those made just for you and build a fun and happy community.

Can you believe some business owners are hiding behind their logos and stock photos because they’re concerned people will find out what they look like? And people are sitting in seminars and paying money and fed this crap. It makes me upset because in some way shape or form we’ve all been affected by it.

Let’s run the race we’ve been given and run it swiftly gracefully and seek guidance when we need it. And then go right back and continue the flow again and again and again.

I challenge you today, take a look at your website, your product, your social media profiles. Is it a reflection of who you really are, what someone told you would work, or what you thought looked good on someone else’s so you put it on yours? If it’s not you, it’s time to make it yours.

Lots of people are counting on you to show up. Not the person you’re copying or presenting as you, but the real you. The world is waiting in earnest expectation for the uniqueness of you.

This post was written prior to hearing about the passing of Steve Jobs. If there’s one thing we can all learn from him, it’s to: Embrace YOU, crazy and all!

Now it’s your turn. Please share what it means to be yourself in your business and in life.

Is Your Guard Up?

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Is Your Guard Up?

By: Tiffany Parson

I’ve got my spiritual boxing gloves on today. Do you have a minute?

Please listen to me as a virtual assistant coach and trainer it’s my responsibility to be open and share based on experiences whether they be mine or someone else’s. This is how we all learn.

This is what I was going to post on my Facebook wall and then realized it best I send it to you all directly because you might miss it:

Happy Thursday Guys!! I cannot impress upon you enough to be sure you review potential clients websites and every social media link they have. You can learn a lot about who they are, their beliefs, and their message. If it is not in line with yours pass on the opportunity.

There was a time when I didn’t know to do this and it not only effected my business, but my family. As a service provider when you work with a business owner, you are agreeing to their message whatever it is.

Beware everyone with a bright smile and a pleasant disposition is not what you see. In the Wizard of Oz there was both a good witch and a bad witch. As for me and my house a witch is a witch is a witch.

“…God is strong, and he wants you strong.

So take everything the Master has set out for you, well–made weapons of the best materials. And put them to use so you will be able to stand up to everything the Devil throws your way.

This is no afternoon athletic contest that we’ll walk away from and forget about in a couple of hours. This is for keeps, a life-or-death fight to the finish against the Devil and all his angels.

Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet.” {Ephesians 10 – 14 MSG}

Do not ever put your self in a situation of desperation. No matter what!

Here’s what happens when you do:

  • You end up with a project you cannot handle
  • You end up with a client you cannot serve
  • You miss out on other opportunities because you’re tied up with something that never should have been on your plate in the first place.

Guard what you do. Your clients and family depend on you.

Much love and all the best…

🙂 Tiffany
Is Your Guard Up?

Why Not Start Where You Are

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Why Not Start Where You Are
by Tiffany Parson

It’s funny to me when people are hesitant to put a buy now button on their website because they are waiting to decide on a shopping cart. Okay, back up a sec…

Let’s say this person’s name is Sam and Sam has never sold anything online. Not one product, not one service. However, he’s been holding out for weeks on marketing his services until he decides on a pay button.

The problem, is we often are looking at where someone is right now and thinking, ‘Oh I cannot do that. I don’t have the money, time, resources, training, etc.’

Guess what? Neither did they.

Not when they were where you are right now.

Think of someone you admire or someone who is successful in your eyes at what they do. Maybe it’s someone who owns several stores and is selling their own product. Here’s an example: Carol’s Daughter.

This company sells skin and haircare products. A friend introduced me to this company about 7 years ago. Back then I think they had only one store in New York and since I don’t live in New York I would order things from their website.

However, since that time Carol’s Daughter has BLOWN UP!

You see she got started making products in her kitchen. However, if I allow myself to use her as a model, I mustn’t start with where she is right now, but I’ve got to know her story.

How did it get started?

What did she do to get to where she is right now?

Online we tend to think because things are done so quickly that we can get an idea today, put up a website tomorrow and BAM have tens of thousands of people coming to our website, following us on Facebook, Twitter and where ever else. Then we get discouraged when it doesn’t happen. The biggest thing missing is the effort, persistence and consistency needed to keep things going in our business.

I remember hearing my mentor say if you aren’t making any money in your business, you don’t have a business. You have an opportunity. Ah!

And yet, there are people who will read this right now and think they have a business because they have a website. I’m sorry to say that’s not the case. It takes hard work to get a business going online. Yes, there’s little over head, but where there’s lesser overhead you transfer that to effort, learning a skill, research. Finding out if people even want what you have.

My husband and I recently went to see the movie Guilt Trip. It started off slow but ended up being a pretty good movie. If you’ve got a mother, you must go see it. I’ve asked my mom to go see it and then let me know if she saw her self in Barbara Steisand’s character.

In the movie, the son is trying to sell an organic cleaning product. Yes, while people are into being green, organic, yada yah…he still had to put some energy into his product. It wasn’t until he did an outrageous presentation that he finally got someone’s attention. Yes, it was a fiction movie, but it makes sense. If I don’t want what you’re offering, what can you do?

Make me want it?

You must start where you are. If you don’t have a button and are allowing that to hold you up, please get signed up with PayPal NOW. There’s no rule that says you cannot change your shopping cart button later to something else. Get moving already!

I recently watched this video on Marie Forleo’s website. She takes you through her initial episodes of and brings it up to today. It’s easy to look at her online TV show in 2013 and think wow, I cannot do that. However, when you see she actually didn’t start from where we see her right now, it was completely different back in 2011.

Stop trying to copy someone’s now and begin right where you are.

Why Not Start Where You Are

The Question Is Not How, But Why?

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Editor Note:

I read this article and it’s kind of messed up my afternoon, in a good way. I’ve cried and I’ve questioned myself as to why I’m doing what I’m doing. What’s my reason beyond myself?

We’ve heard from people interested in working online as VAs as well as clients asking how they can improve their numbers. I have one question, why?.

Much love,


Why do you want an online business?

Why do you want to be a freelancer?

Why do you want to be a virtual assistant?

Why do you want x number of fans on Facebook?

Why do you want x number of people following you on Twitter or connecting with you on LinkedIn?


What are you going to do when they get there?

They’ve done what you wanted, now what? Will you over load them with sales pitches or will you genuinely care?

The ones who care are the ones we enjoy being around and associating ourselves with. The ones who care challenge us to be our best when we feel like giving up.

The ones who care charge us to take a stand against something not just to increase our net worth but to increase the net worth of others. To lead someone else into their destiny instead of down a road of destruction.

Sure it’s amazing to sit at your dining room table and work, creating, building a dream. However if you don’t know why then what’s the point.

Your why is way bigger than a car, house, family, debt freedom, it’s way bigger than that. If that was it your time would be up. But it’s not you’re here.

As long as you’re here do something!

The Question Is Not How, But Why?