Understand the Power of Influence You Have And The People Who Connect With You

If you’re like me, you have your favorite peeps online. More than likely they’ve shared their life with you in some way and given you a glimpse of what it would be like to hangout with them. Or maybe you’ve thought about it on your own and determined hey so and so would be so fun to hangout with or shop with or have a quick chat on the phone maybe even meetup at an event.

Has it ever occurred to you, that someone is looking at you in that same way? Whether it’s someone you know online or someone you’ve met where you live, you are a power of influence to someone. They may be in your home, church, work, who knows.

How would you feel if the person you admired online revealed they weren’t really a man but a woman? I’m not talking about an online dating situation just your favorite blog for example?

Or if you thought the person was single and then one day they reveal they have stepchildren which means at some point they were married.

What if you learned they smoked and you’d pictured them being more of the healthy type?

How would you feel if you learned I was married with three children? Would you think I’d somehow lied to you because I never said anything about them?

I would feel shocked and wonder why didn’t you tell me. And then I’d have to tell myself, Tiffany you really don’t know them. It’s okay. It would take a minute to get past.

On the other hand, if the person were completely open and spoke about their family, pets, neighbors, extended family members and anyone else who crossed their path that would make great material for their writing. This person you’d feel close to and comfortable with because they were sharing about themselves.

Knowing how you would feel in this situation are you meeting those expectations on your own website or are you over educating your readers like a teacher rather than a friend? When you were in school, how many teachers did you call friend? There’s a reason. They usually kept things strictly business, strictly to the information.

It amazes me how close we get to those we read or watch on a weekly basis. Those who are offline more than online would argue something is wrong with that or not really understand. And that’s okay. I’ve decided to not convince non-Internet people to get online. Instead I share the reasons why. When you can give someone an experience through your own they’ll eventually catch up. And in the meantime share, no longer teach. But guide like a friend would guide.

Oh, and by the way I don’t have a husband and 3 kids, but one day I will. I am trying to think of a creative name for non-mommy-blogger. If you can think of one let me know.

Now its your turn. Have you ever felt duped by someone who enjoyed reading online?